| We all talk, don't we? Therefore we all hold | | | | Ok, so there's the basic rules. Good conversations |
| conversations. You may not think you're very | | | | take practise; like everything else in life, if you're |
| good at them, but often you'll find yourself talking | | | | not so good at something, don't expect to be an |
| confidently in everyday situations without realizing | | | | expert overnight. However, here's a tip that you |
| it. The problem many people have is how to | | | | probably won't see anywhere else. Most men just |
| sustain a good conversation. Have you ever been | | | | love talking about themselves - am I being sexist |
| at a wedding, a party, or some social gathering | | | | here? No, let's continue. So here's the thing - if |
| where you have thought, "what the? - How am I | | | | you are stuck for something to say particularly to |
| going to be able to talk for x hours - I'm running | | | | a bloke, (although it works for women too) simply |
| on empty already." | | | | ask an open ended question. For example how |
| Firstly, there are unwritten rules - | | | | about, "what's your taste in movies, thriller, |
| 1. Make eye contact, | | | | comedy..?", or, "did you see the game last night?". |
| 2. Keep a reasonable distance, | | | | Even something as easy as asking what they |
| 3. Stay away from religious topics, and maybe | | | | have been doing recently will work nicely - but |
| politics too, | | | | use your own style of language. You see I would |
| 4. try to connect with the person, by | | | | naturally say "Good day to you, sir, entertain me |
| communicating in a similar style. It should be | | | | with regard to your endeavours this past week", |
| remembered that with all of these rules, avoid | | | | but maybe that wouldn't work for everyone. (I'm |
| extremes - in other words, do the eye contact | | | | kidding, right). |
| thing but don't stare like a lunatic; don't invade | | | | The most important thing to remember is to |
| somebody's personal space, but equally don't try | | | | develop a friendly countenance - that's a smiley |
| and talk to them if you're so far away that you | | | | face to you and me - and people will be more |
| need a megaphone. It's kind of ok to talk religion | | | | inclined to talk freely. If you appear moody or |
| if you're attending a bible meeting or at the | | | | aggressive, why would anyone want to engage |
| mosque, synagogue etc. Don't impersonate your | | | | with you? But I know that's not you, you've got |
| fellow conversationalist - it will look like you're | | | | such a kind face. |
| making fun of them. | | | | |