Why Attaining Happiness is So Elusive, Part 5

This is the fifth and final article in the seriesArjuna is transformed. In my own case, reading
reviewing The Happiness Hypothesis: Findingthe gospel and hearing a well phrased sermon
Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathanamong a community of believers give me a
Haidt. First, I want to share with you my thoughtsstrong sense of well-being.
on the role of the divine and sacred in modern life.Haidt points out that the little voice is often the
Second, I want to look at the difference betweenmain obstacle to spiritual advancement. How true
"finding happiness" and "being happy."that is. I see my own little voice drawing me back
In the previous article I looked at the Adversityto the material and profane, elevating my ego
hypothesis and the Virtue hypothesis. The firstover the spiritual, and trying to convince me
holds that in order to grow you need to(often successfully) that it is easier to stay home
overcome setbacks in your life. The secondthen to go to church. Of course, some may say
assets that you need to practice virtue to bethat one can still connect to the sacred without
happy. I realized that both notions can give my lifenecessarily going to church, temple, synagogue or
deep purpose and meaning.wherever.
In this article I look at what Haidt calls the "ethicLove and work
of divinity," peak experiences or moments of selfHaidt returns to the notion of the happiness
transcendence, the importance of love and work,formula, which I looked at in article 3: H(appiness)
and finally what I term asking the right questions= S(et point) + C(onditions) + V (oluntary
about happiness.activities). He asserts that people look for a set
Ethic of divinityof principles and goals that guide their actions or
Haidt proposes that the social world has in factgive meaning or value to the choices they make.
three dimensions. The first has to do withA key idea for Haidt is that you have to get the
closeness: close versus distant kin, and betweenconditions right to be happy. Love and work are
friends versus strangers. The second has to docrucial for happiness. It is also critical to pursue
with social hierarchy in our relationships withand have the right goals. Some, however, may
others. The third deals with the moral dimensionnot agree with this equation entirely. There is
or divinity. Human beings perceive divinity andmuch evidence coming from spiritual traditions
sacredness in the world, although it may notaffirming that human beings are inherently happy
necessarily exist. The existentialist Sartre said thatand do not realize it.
life is empty and meaningless. However, one ideaTolstoy said it beautifully, "One can live
or interpretation I took away from attending themagnificently in this world, if one knows how to
Landmark Education Forum recently is that "life iswork and how to love, to work for the person
empty and meaningless and it is empty andone loves and to love one's work." Your work
meaningless that life is empty and meaningless."may be just a job for you, or just a career.
One way human beings give a sense of meaningHowever, if your life work is a calling, it will most
to life is through the ethic of divinity. Indianlikely give you a sense of intrinsic fulfillment and a
culture, for example, believes that living in a puresense of flow. For me, my work as a writer and
and holy way is a means to spiritual and moralteacher is a calling. I get tremendous joy, flow,
advancement; it becomes a visceral experience.and identity from writing and teaching; I am
As a Christian myself, I believe that the body isconnected, engaged and committed.
the temple of the Holy Spirit, as St. Paul says, andAsking the right questions
should be treated with reverence and respect. ISo we can ask ourselves two questions. What
must admit that I get pleasure in going to church;should I do to have a good happy, fulfilling and
it allows me to step out of my profane existence.meaningful life? How can I be happy and fulfilled?
Peak experiencesThere is really no answer to the first question.
Haidt refers to A. Maslow's work on peakYou cannot find, acquire or achieve happiness
experiences, joyous and exciting moments in lifedirectly. As Haidt says, you have to get the
that produce feelings of intense happiness andconditions right. You need to be coherent in all the
well-being. Applied to a religious experience (whichlevels of your life; you need to be in relationship
does not necessarily represent the "truth"), theseto something beyond yourself; and you need love
moments provide a state of self transcendence.and a calling. There is really no answer to the
People perceive something vast, somethingsecond question either. It is like asking yourself
beyond their existing mental structures. Suchhow can I breathe. Just like breathing, happiness
moments create an opening for change, and evenhappens. It is living in the moment and having a
transformation. Haidt relates beautifully theblast.
dramatic climax of the Bhagavad Gita in which